How to turn a summer fling into the real thing
You’ve had more romantic moments in one week with your summer fling than you’ve had all year. You feel like Rhonda and Ketut. But what happens when you get home? How do you go from fling to ring without losing the a good time and frivolity of meeting on the road? You may have just met the love of your life, but make sure you still have the experiences you planned and stay independent, especially if you are travelling with friends. Choosing dates over mates is never cool, unless maybe you happen to chance upon meeting a Victoria’s Secret model or The Bachelor on a secluded nudist island colony. Then all the rules are well and truly out the window. Parting will be hard – it’s good to have a conversation before you leave about your expectations. We’re not talking about laying it all on the line, but discuss staying in touch and seeing where things go. While technology can sometimes be an unwelcome third party in a relationship, in the case of long-distance love, it can be the one thing that keeps it bubbling along. But there’s a balance – stalking isn’t true love, so don’t go overboard with contact. Use programs such as Skype, Facetime, Viber, WhatsApp, Facebook and photos to keep in touch with your new love. Once things are bubbling along nicely, visit their home turf and invite them to yours to learn more about each other. A travel romance can often gloss over factors you’d never go for in your ‘real life’ or puts a person on a pedestal because they are foreign and new. But seeing them interacting with friends, family and colleagues will give you an idea of who they really are. If you’re travelling to another country to meet up, make sure you remain independent and can make a quick exit if the shine has worn off. Booking a flexible ticket is money well spent. But unfortunately sometimes what happens on the road needs to stay on the road, so recognising when it’s just a summer fling and calling it off can save you heartbreak and time in the long run. Be respectful and honest, and you’ll hopefully walk away with some great memories…and not a stalker. Top Tips: – Make sure when taking photos on your holiday that your love isn’t in all of them. If things turn sour, you still want some snaps to remember the trip by. – Stay safe and be smart if you take things ‘to the next level’. – Cheating on the road is still cheating. Be respectful if you have a partner at home. – When visiting their home turf, book a Hotel for independence and a flexible ticket so you can split at a moment’s notice.
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